It is almost the month that I lost my brother. Always in July the air turns thick and hot, my breathing gets more shallow, my heart races and sleepness nights continue. I hate this time of year more than any other. I feel like someone is kicking me when I am already down.
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Thursday, June 25th, 2009VistaPrint Some Memories
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“Stay in the light”
Thursday, January 29th, 2009“Stay in the light.” This is a quote that may help many grieving souls. It is a difficult thing to do; it is difficult to try to see your brother or sister only in the “light.” After loss there is so much darkness. Darkness surrounds you at every angle. Darkness from the pain of your sibling being gone, darkness from not only losing your brother or sister, but losing all those around you; other siblings, parents, other family, friends and possibly children that have lost faith in you. The darkness is so present you do not and cannot function. You may not want to get up and go back to life, or you may want to stay in a hyper-state of denial. It is easier to stay in the darkness; you can feel closer to your brother or sister in that sate. You hold on to the “last time.” The last time I talked to them, saw them, hugged them, touched them, however try to tell yourself your sibling is only in the light.
Maybe it is wishful thinking, maybe it is lying to yourself, but try to only see your brother or sister surrounded by “light.” You should not be convinced of this, but it is better than being stuck. Stuck in a place where you see nothing. To honor every aspect and minute your brother or sister lived you need to seem them and remain close to them, by seeing them surrounded by love in the “light.”
Cut those sayings out!!!
Thursday, January 29th, 2009Okay, if you are viewing this webpage you know what I am talking about and have probably heard them all: “they are in a better place”, “it was there time to go”, “God has a plan”……….etc. I really wish people would try to understand that these statements do not help anyone who has lost a loved one. They rarely make grieving people feel better and they never, ever seem to answer your questions. Don’t people realize that when a loved one is “taken” from you, many of us question “God”, question “the plan”, question the reason for living at all.
Communicating with “the friends”
Wednesday, January 28th, 2009Do you ever find that if the friends of our brother’s or sister’s we lost contacts us, you love it and hate it, all at the same time? I think many people do not realize, that when you lose a sibling as an adult, many of the friends of this sibling go on to live a long life. It is difficult to see all the growth around you in his or her friends. You love hearing from there friends how much your sibling is missed, however you hate the new relationship that has been created because of your loss.
