One of the hardest parts for me other than losing my brother is losing my parents over this. Your family can feel so broken after an adult sibling loss. You are in pain, you are an “adult” and you are not suppose to go crying back to mommy and daddy after something like this. Sometimes you even step up to the plate and act as parents for them, knowing they are in pain too just feeling it in different ways. I will never forget a hug my mom gave me the day we lost my brother, I was crying on a couch and she tried to come over and console me. She gave it her best shot, but she was cold and hollow and from that point on I knew she would never be the same woman or mom I knew. It is bad enough losing an adult sibling, but losing a connection and parent child relationship with your parents burns too. I am sure they do not know how to spread the love around after this kind of crisis, it seems like we will never have it figured out. Are piece of everyone is gone after this kind of thing, it is just as an adult during this you really realize what being an adult is all about and you see your parents in a whole new light.
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