This one may seem a little harsh or bitter, but I need share this thought! Have any of you ever experienced that person who acts like a general towards you, telling how, when and what to feel while grieving? You know what I want to say to those people, “If you are not fighting the war and in the trenches, you should not act like a general.” Grieving is very analogous to a war and a battlefield. I just wish people would understand that this battle will never end, and to please give me my the space and time to fight my own war, in my own way.
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my experience wasn’t so much like dealing with someone acting like a general, but of contending with someone who believes that the grieving process is an exact science and must be followed with the precision of a train schedule! They might mean well, but they can be maddening. Just like one cannot do math puzzles in his or her head right after stubbing a toe, the aching void left from losing a sibling is no place to “be reasonable.” The sudden tears, guilt and the emotional unpredictability are natural and supportive people are needed to help ease the pain.
I totally agree with John…I am feeling all this..sudden tears..emotional unprediction..etc..Hmm..long way to go..with this pain..an entire lifetime.
I recently got out of relationship where the guy told me that it had been 2 months and I should be over my brother passing away…