http://siblinggrief.com/the-general-and-the-trenches/ A Place to Talk About Adult Sibling Loss and Grief Mon, 06 Feb 2012 18:46:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 http://siblinggrief.com/the-general-and-the-trenches/comment-page-1/#comment-2159 Katey Tue, 26 Jul 2011 21:00:06 +0000 http://siblinggrief.com/?p=127#comment-2159 I recently got out of relationship where the guy told me that it had been 2 months and I should be over my brother passing away... I recently got out of relationship where the guy told me that it had been 2 months and I should be over my brother passing away…

]]> http://siblinggrief.com/the-general-and-the-trenches/comment-page-1/#comment-2149 Cherish Thu, 17 Mar 2011 17:31:38 +0000 http://siblinggrief.com/?p=127#comment-2149 I totally agree with John...I am feeling all this..sudden tears..emotional unprediction..etc..Hmm..long way to go..with this pain..an entire lifetime. I totally agree with John…I am feeling all this..sudden tears..emotional unprediction..etc..Hmm..long way to go..with this pain..an entire lifetime.

]]> http://siblinggrief.com/the-general-and-the-trenches/comment-page-1/#comment-2111 John McIntyre Fri, 10 Dec 2010 04:42:03 +0000 http://siblinggrief.com/?p=127#comment-2111 my experience wasn't so much like dealing with someone acting like a general, but of contending with someone who believes that the grieving process is an exact science and must be followed with the precision of a train schedule! They might mean well, but they can be maddening. Just like one cannot do math puzzles in his or her head right after stubbing a toe, the aching void left from losing a sibling is no place to "be reasonable." The sudden tears, guilt and the emotional unpredictability are natural and supportive people are needed to help ease the pain. my experience wasn’t so much like dealing with someone acting like a general, but of contending with someone who believes that the grieving process is an exact science and must be followed with the precision of a train schedule! They might mean well, but they can be maddening. Just like one cannot do math puzzles in his or her head right after stubbing a toe, the aching void left from losing a sibling is no place to “be reasonable.” The sudden tears, guilt and the emotional unpredictability are natural and supportive people are needed to help ease the pain.

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